(Youth and Sex)
Sunday, May 4, 2008
Tammy Kernodle, Guest Cultural Resource Commentator
Associate Professor of Musicology, Miami University, Department of Music, Miami, FL
I. Historical Documents
Sex and Today’s Youth - A Survey
In 2004, a report prepared by Motivational Educational Entertainment along with the National Campaign
to Prevent Teen Pregnancy looked at sexual trends among low-income black urban youth. The report
also contained interviews with ten experts on sexuality. The project surveyed forty focus groups
in nine urban areas. Youth ages sixteen-twenty were interviewed. Among key findings of the report
were: Young black girls do not feel valued; “Becoming a teen parent seems more realistic than
abstaining from sex, getting married, or having a successful future;” and "Parents can help but
they often don’t," and regardless of income race or residence the teens wanted parental support.1
The report made clear that “these young people are products of the socio-economic and cultural influences
in their environment.”2 Although pregnancy rates are decreasing, black youth are having sex sooner and are
becoming HIV/AIDS victims in high numbers.3
Perhaps the most striking aspect of the report was the disdain for black females shown by males, and females.
Reporter Thulani Davis of the Village Voice commenting on the report said, “As the authors put it, ‘Black
females are valued by no one.’”4
The report lists 15 negative names used by males and females to refer to
females, but only four names used to refer to males which could be reasonably perceived as negative. Beth
Richie, one of the scholars participating in the report said, “Young people today in lower-income black
communities are facing…a whole set of stereotypical images of themselves-hypersexual, sexually irresponsible,
not concerned with ongoing intimate relationships. They can’t help but be influenced by those images.”5
Though it needs to be mentioned that many African American youth are excelling in high school, going to college,
and leading productive crime-free lives, those who are in trouble need help. Thus, my
focus on how to address some of the negativity mentioned by Ms. Richie.
II. Negative Images of Girls and Women in Media
Unfortunately, the formerly mentioned negative images are everywhere. They abound in popular culture
(i.e. music, television, magazines, movies, etc.). For each generation the acceptable norms of social interaction
have largely been governed by popular culture. It is no secret that today’s youth are inundated with references
to sex and sexual intercourse in every area of popular culture. The media has found new ways to disseminate its
messages to younger and younger audiences. Turn on the radio and one will hear explicit lyrics such as 50 Cent’s
Candy Shop, “Wanna show me how you work it baby, no problem. Get on top then get to bouncing round like a low
rider. I'm a seasoned vet when it come to this sh---. After you work up a sweat you can play with the stick.
I'm trying to explain baby the best way I can. I melt in your mouth girl, not in your hands;" or the Ying
Yang Twins Wait (The Whisper Song), “Hey how you doin lil mama? Lemme whisper in your ear. Tell you
sumthing that you might like to hear. You got a sexy a--- body and you’re a-- look soft. Mind if I touch
it? And see if its soft”; or Ludacris’ Money Maker,: “Shake, shake, shake your money maker. Like you
were shaking it for some paper. Took your mama 9 months to make ya. Might as well shake what ya mama gave ya.”
All of these songs were popular, and not only gained unrestrained rotation on radio stations, but their
accompanying videos were showcased regularly on Black Entertainment Television (BET) and elsewhere. These
videos have played a large role in defining sex and gender roles for a number of years. They use a formula
that consists of scantily-clad young women dancing and shaking their bodies in front the camera, while
fully dressed men ogle or fondle them.
MTV (The Real World, Shot at Love), the CW (One Tree Hill, Girlfriends), and other major networks
are homes to a number of reality and sitcom shows that project messages of hyper sexuality and promiscuity
in college-aged and younger segments of the population. The message has clearly been sent to both the
youth and young adults of today that sex is a rite of passage into social acceptance and premature adulthood,
not something to be valued or shared in marriage.
BET is so centered on the exposition of raunchy, soft porn videos that they devoted a segment of their late
night programming to a show called BET Uncut. The show featured videos that were too explicit to be
showcased during primetime hours. The controversy regarding the videos and images shown reached a fever
pitch in 2003 when Nelly’s video Tip Drill featured him swiping a credit card down a woman’s butt.
The phrase "Tip-Drill" refers to an ugly woman with a nice body, good only for sex; in what some see
as reinforcing the stereotype of women as a cash-and-carry commodity. The video also raised questions
about the sexual exploitation of black women and BET’s responsibility in projecting these images.
Although BET Uncut was cancelled in 2006, its featured videos can still be viewed on internet
sites such as YouTube.
In recent years, publications such as Essence magazine have begun to challenge the images and language of
popular music. In 2005, the magazine launched its “Take the Music Back” campaign, which was designed to
provide a platform for discussion about popular music’s extreme images of black women; explore the effects
of such imagery on our children, especially our girls; to seek greater balance in how black women—and black
men—are portrayed in popular music and culture; encourage readers to examine their own attitudes on the subject;
and promote artists who deliver positive alternatives so that readers can vote with their dollars.6
But the fight against such images is not resigned primarily to secular entities. Elder Craig G. Lewis heads
Ex Ministries which not only addresses the sexual images and lyrics present in popular culture, but also the
social pressures facing most youth. Urban contemporary gospel has also become a way in which these issues
have been addressed. As alternatives to negative secular hip hop and R&B culture, the gospel music
community has infused the language, visual art style, dance, and production of the music into several
sub-genres of contemporary gospel. Called the “sound and beat of the street,” the urban contemporary
gospel style can be broken down into a myriad of genres including hip hop gospel (defined by the work
of Ricky Dillard, Kirk Franklin, Brent Moss, J. Moss, Mary Mary, Karen Clark Sheard; Kierra “KiKi” Sheard,
and Youthful Praise), where hip hop in the form of samples, rap, and performance aesthetic is combined with lyrics
that draw on personal experience with God or from scripture; reggae gospel (this is where a gospel message
is set against reggae rhythms, (Papa San, Infinity, and Christafari, are purveyors of this style); and gospel
rap or what some now call holy hip hop which utilizes similar performance practices as mainstream hip hop,
but with a gospel message. The biblically inspired messages of these artists and genres have been furthered
reinforced through videos, artists' showcase, and television shows such as “Bobby Jones Gospel” and “Lift Every Voice.” (Both on BET).
III. Standing Up for Black Females Against Nellie’s Tip Drill Video
Moya Bailey describes her reaction to Nelly’s video in, “Dilemma: Students at Spelman College Protest Nelly’s
Video ‘Tip Drill’”7 “Over Christmas break I was up late one night on the phone. As I passed the den I
glanced at the TV and what I saw made me stop. Nelly and the St. Lunatics were throwing money at nearly
naked women…Then I saw Murphy Lee [Nellie] sliding a credit card between a woman's butt cheeks. I was
too disgusted to even speak and got off the phone quickly.
When I came back to school, along with the usual "How was break?" and "What'd you do?" came the soon equally
familiar, "Have you seen 'Tip Drill?'" My Spelman sisters and Morehouse brothers alike were shocked
by this recent low in depictions of African American women on the small screen. Our critique of the
video was not isolated. Fellow Historically Black College/University (HBCU) students at Howard had
protested in front of Viacom to show their outrage towards the video in mid-December. It became
apparent to me, as Spelman's Feminist Majority Leadership Alliance (FMLA) President that this was
something that we, too, needed to address…
I saw Asha Jennings, The Spelman Student Government Association (SGA) President carrying a big box…Asha
explained that in the box were flyers for the Jes Us 4 Jackie bone marrow drive that was set to take
place on April 2. Spelman SGA had been working with Nelly's foundation to bring a bone marrow registration
drive to campus. The problem was readily apparent.
How could Spelman, a historically black women's institution, have Nelly on campus after his heinous
depiction of black women in his lyrics and videos? Asha had been previously unaware of the video and had
just seen it. She now stood at the crossroads of what to do. Should she cancel the drive, knowing that
the issue of minority bone marrow registration would go unaddressed? Should she uninvite Nelly…and allow
the foundation to come? Should students remain silent altogether and not bring up the issue of "Tip Drill?"
Asha presented her dilemma to our Feminist Theory class, citing that her other classes were in favor of
participating in the drive, and then writing Nelly a letter which would uninvite him from the campus. Our professor,
Dr. Guy-Sheftall, was the voice of reason and pointed out that writing a letter does not carry the same weight
that protesting or canceling a drive have. If we were upset about his portrayal of African American women in the
video, our actions had to be equally powerful. Additionally, sending a letter does not ensure that Nelly will
read it. He has people who read his mail for him and he might never know our concern. Finally, you cannot separate the man from his foundation.
It belongs to him and should he decide to come on campus, he could do so with his foundation…
The students heavily debated Nelly, his lyrics and their impact upon the community and society at large,
and the morality of inviting Nelly, someone whose position was insufferable, but who offered some riches by
way of the foundation, or uninviting him and his foundation. The following is a summary of what eventually transpired.
“Fliers were up all over campus and the Nelly "Tip Drill" controversy was heating up. However, it was not
until the Tuesday night FMLA meeting that everything came to a head. Asha informed the group that the foundation
had pulled out of the drive. Apparently, the foundation had been to campus earlier that week and seen the
signs that the FMLA put up all over campus. They scheduled an emergency meeting with SGA and requested
that no protestors be at the drive. SGA could not meet the ridiculous demand of assuring their request.
The foundation then left the room so that SGA could vote on whether or not the drive could continue if,
at the foundation's request, Nelly agreed to participate in a forum to address student concerns. Despite a
unanimous vote to continue with the drive under the new stipulations, when the foundation came back they
had already decided to cancel the drive. The foundation was apparently so upset about this issue that
they went to the press, saying that Spelman canceled the drive because of the video "Tip Drill."
Unfortunately for them, their plan backfired and the media coverage blew up and ended up depicting them negatively….”8
IV. Testimonies About Being Positive Role Models for Young People
A. Gospel artist Kierra”Kiki” Sheard on being young and saved
“I really love being a role model. I love being an example for the youth. At the same time, being a teenager,
there are some things I might do that I have to be careful of, because of the doors that God has
opened and because of my name. There is a lot of expectation from the people around me and those
watching me, but I am staying on top of it. Tomorrow is not promised y’all! You have to take
advantage of everything He has to offer while you’re young. I mean, why not do it? What’s to
wait for? He is coming back so soon, and it will be unexpected. We have got to live saved.
The people you are trying to impress and hang around? It’s time out for that, if they are
not living saved. Spirits can transfer; I’m a witness to that. Why would you allow the spirit
of the enemy to overtake your mind and your life? The enemy will go as far as to use the people
who are closest to you to bring you down and before you know it, you are in a mess. He is THE
best thing that could happen to you.”9
B. Gospel artist Kirk Franklin on his struggle with pornography
“There's always the boy who has the big brother who has the magazine under his bed. That's how it starts.
So the first time I ever saw one, I was around eight or nine. I saw my first magazine, and from there I
was addicted. It's weird because you're talking about the dude who was the minister of music at a church
when I was eleven. I have to check myself because there's an anger that rises up in me. I get evangelically
ticked off by the fact that I wished somebody would have taught me a long time ago about the repercussions
of sex and flesh and lust and vanity and pride and ego. I wished somebody would have been holding my little
behind accountable years ago. But let me tell you what happens to the gifted. The gifted in the church slip right through.”
As his popularity grew, Franklin’s issues with pornography threatened to derail his success. So after many
years he sought spiritual counseling.
In 2006, he announced his struggles and his subsequent healing on the Oprah Show. “If I have been set free
from this one, anybody can be set free because I questioned for years whether I could be set free. Dude,
I was doing albums, albums that people were getting blessed by, and I was struggling with pornography.
‘Why We Sing’ came out in '93, and I was struggling with pornography. ‘Stomp’ came out in '97, and I
was struggling with pornography. These albums God was speaking through and everyone was getting their
victory except for me. I used to question and almost began to wonder, ‘What's going on? What was
happening, and this might help people’: my victory didn't come by my emotional experience;
my victory came through truth. When I was taught truth, that's when I got my freedom.” 10
V. Songs that Speak to the Calendar Moment
Who do you think I am?
I don't play these games
Not goin' out like that let me explain
Tryin' to save myself
Don't pressure me.
My spirit leads me to celibacy
I have to just be real and I know it's fair
I wanna please my God and I don't care
You can just leave now, but if you stay
There's gonna be no other way.
If this is love then you can take it
If this is not then don't ya fake it.
My body is the Lord's temple
Don't mess with me-----God's property
It ain't that bad if you try to see
His perfect will is all that I need
My body is the Lord's temple
Don't mess with me----God's property.11
Let It Go
Sex was how I made it thru
No one was teaching love so how did it I do?
See where I'm from they call you gay and say you ain't a man
Show them you ain't no punk
Get all the girls you can.”12
Thought of people callin' me
Tryin' to get my attention
Do some things I ain't suppose to,
Lead me in the wrong direction
But the only road for me
Is to wherever You are
I will follow You wherever you are
No matter how near or far. 13
VI. The Enough is Enough Campaign
Similar to the campaign against sexually explicit and derogatory rap music led by Reverend Calvin Butts,
pastor of the historic Abyssinian Baptist Church in Harlem in 1993, in fall of 2007, Reverend Delman
Coates, Ph.D., pastor of Mount Enon Baptist Church in the D.C./Maryland area began a campaign against
use of song lyrics that degrade black women and men. According to Coates, “The global
marketing of negatives images and stereotypes has created an environment in which portrayal of black
men as “pimps, players, gangsters, thugs, drug dealers, etc., and black women as strippers, whores and
objects for sexual exploitation are becoming mainstream, acceptable in the American popular imagination.” Coates
led congregants, and others, in a march to the home of Washington D.C. resident Debra Lee who is the chairman
of BET, and outside the home of Philippe Dauman, the president and chief executive of Viacom Inc. which owns
BET and several other media entities. According to Coates weekly demonstrations would be held.14
“Additionally, we are focusing on the FCC to do more to enforce its mandate on indecency on the public
airways between 6am and 10pm," he continued. "We are also looking for Congress to allow consumer choice in the cable
industry; more popularly known as ala carte cable. We believe this is important because, currently, even if consumers
change the channel, their cable bill is still going towards subsidizing those outlets that produce content that they
don't desire or support. (On top of that), the FCC put out a report in 2006 that said ala carte cable will help
reduce cable bills by 13 percent….”
"I'm a child of Hip-Hop music. I grew up on Run DMC, KRS 1, Afrika Bambaataa, A Tribe Called Quest and Del La Soul,"
said Coates. "I am a child of Hip-Hop music and I believe that it's not just those that are 40 and over (protesting).
There are many young adults, and many teenagers who I believe are equally concerned and, to a large degree, disgraced
by the representation that's being shown…
It's really about the kind of world that we want to leave to our children and grandchildren," Coates reasoned.
There has been a growing coarseness in American popular culture. If we, as Americans, don't begin to balance
between our freedoms and dealing with them responsibly we will destroy our society from within. Right now
we are battling a war against those who seek to destroy us from the outside, but if we don't move now we
stand in jeopardy. We stand to destroy ourselves from within. As African Americans and as Americans we
are destroying our minds, souls and hearts. It's more than just music. These lyrics are destroying the
minds and ambitions of our future generations.”15
Motivational Educational Entertainment and The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy 2004 Report.
Philadelphia, PA: 2004;Online location:
www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/reading/pdf/myreality.pdf accessed 27 January 2008
- see HIV/Aids programs sponsored The Balm In Gilead Inc. Online location:
accessed 27 January 2008
- Davis , Thulani. “The Height of Disrespect.” The Village Voice. 9 Mar. 2004.
Online location:www.villagevoice.com/news/0411,181874,51847,1.html accessed 27 January 2008
- see Essence’s Take Back the Music Campaign, Online location:
www.essence.com accessed 27 January 2008
- Moya Bailey, “Dilemma: Students at Spelman College Protest Nelly’s Video
‘Tip Drill.’” Originally posted at Wiretap, 24 May 2004; republished online location:
www.alternet.org accessed 28 January 2008
- Jones, Steven. “Kierra ‘Kiki’ Sheard: This is She.” GOSPELFlava.com 2006
www.gospelflava.com/articles/kierrasheardinterview2006.html accessed 28 January 2008
- Woodland, Shannon and Scott Ross. “Kirk Franklin’s Freedom.”
www.cbn.com/cbnmusic/interviews/700club_kirkfranklin042004.aspx accessed 28 January 2008
- Trin-I-Tee 5:7. Spiritual Love. Inglewood, CA: B-Rite Music, 1999.
- Franklin, Kirk. Hero. New York, NY: GospoCentric/Zomba Gospel, 2005.
- Sheard, Kierra Kiki, Brandon Egerton,
and Ken Pennell. This Is Me. Brentwood, TN: EMI Gospel Music, 2006.
- Milloy, Courtland. “Gangsta Rap, Dying in the Street.” The Washington Post. 19 Sep. 2007: p B1Metro.
accessed 28 January 2008
- Lee, Felicia R. “Protesting Demeaning Images in Media.” New York Times.
5 Nov. 2007. www.nytimes.com/2007/11/05/arts/05enou.html accessed 28 January 2008